As human beings, we are attracted to chasing after our dreams and
making them a reality in order to feel as though we have attained a
certain level of success. For the majority of us, I feel like
success is interpreted as achieving more in life or having more in
life in general. These could be things like having a better car or a
bigger house, getting a nice promotion at job or going out and
buying a fancy watch and not having to put it on a credit card.
There is more than one kind of success though. This particular
definition of success that I previously mentioned pertains to what I
find is normally considered to be ďprofessional
When you read a paper or look in a tabloid magazine, most of the
celebrities and wealthy CEOs are at the level that we consider to be
the pinnacle of their overall professional success in America. In
most cases, it is true that they probably worked very hard to
achieve what they have today and they can now enjoy the fruits of
As Iíve said before, there is more than one type of success. The
If you were to compare two people, one being a famous musician and
another being, say, a middle class government worker, what would you
see? Is it reasonable to consider that the musician is actually
happier than the government worker?
When we look at this comparison, we can see that both the musician
and the government worker are living on the same happiness scale.
The government worker might be happier with his stress-free life
because he gets to come home and see his family every day; the
musician, however, may not be as happy because he has a lot of
stress in his career and sees his family on rare occasions.
Success from a personal standpoint is a direct index to happiness,
and vice versa. If a government worker is happy with his career,
home life and environment, then on a personal level he would be
thought to be very successful. On a professional level, though the
musician may appear to be a lot more successful with his expensive
car, mansion and property, this does nothing for actual personal
Why Not Combine the Two?
What Iíve never been able to understand or make sense of is why so
many people think they can either have professional or personal
happiness but not both at the same time. Sure you see both of these
and they show up from time to time but it always seems unlikely and
rare to say the least.
My advice is to work towards both. Rather than trying to
achieve either professional success or personal success, work on
getting both of them. Devote half your evening to setting up a
savings accounts and proper investments so you can buy a bigger
house or a nicer car down the road. Spend some of this time working
on a pitch for your boss to try to close him or her on that needed
promotion that he or she had been planning on giving out to some
aspiring employee. But for the rest of the evening, spend time with
your family, or spend time improving your home, or spend time in the
gym. Either way, spend your time wisely and in such a way that
promotes both professional and personal success. You will be
happier and much better off in the long run if you work on both of
these goals in tandem, as they will also work off of each other and
provide strong gains and strong successes.